Some habits do
not upset us, but others can cause irritation, frustration and desperation. We
want to rid ourselves of them: but how? When we look at the creation and
fulfillment of thoughts, it looks like a closed system: the thoughts lead to
actions, the actions create a series of impressions, and these impressions are
responsible for similar thoughts, which lead us to similar actions, this is a
vicious cycle. If we want to change a habit, then where do we start? In other
words, where do we change the system or how do we get out of the cycle? First of
all, we can try changing our negative actions: for example, stop a mental
negative habit like anger or a physical one like drinking. In many cases,
although we change our behaviour, but because we have not understood deeply why
we wanted to do it, is quite possible that one day we will go back to this old
habit.
We can try changing
this system in our subconscious. By analysing what is recorded in our
subconscious, through different therapies, the results are not altogether
satisfactory. There is always some traumatic event, or painful experience behind
a fear which causes us to cling on to a negative habit. And although we can see
and recognise our fears and anxieties, if we do not replace them with something
better, with a more beneficial and healthier alternative, very often we will
feel tempted to cling on to these old systems, even though they do not work and
they make us unhappy. To eliminate certain things we have recorded in our
subconscious, meditation and silence are the most effect non-violent
methods.
Another method is to
try and change our beliefs with positive affirmations (thoughts) that strengthen
our willpower, and thus introduce a new habit to replace the old one. It is
vital not to repeat this affirmation mechanically, but to introduce it into the
system of beliefs we hold, and act as if we already were what we express in this
affirmation.
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